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How to mend a broken heart according to Buddhism

This continues on from Why do I feel so lonely? So close and yet so far I have recently been in New York City for a week. People often say they feel lonelier in the middle of a huge city surrounded by millions of people than in a rural area with hardly anyone around. A […]

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Prostrating to the Buddha of Compassion

Buddha’s Enlightenment Day is coming up on April 15, and I, along with a lot of Kadampa Buddhists in places around the world, tend to celebrate it with two days of Drop of Essential Nectar, sometimes known as Nyung Nä. This is a purification, prostration, and fasting retreat in conjunction with Avalokiteshvara, the Buddha of Compassion. […]

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Being Buddha Tara

Who is supposed to be looking after all these animals? Most of the animals we can see are in our human realm, of course, because that is where we are. But there are countless more. According to Buddha’s explanation of the six realms of samsara, the vast majority of animals are packed together in the animal […]

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Why do I feel so lonely?

Can you remember the last time you felt lonely? If you can, you are not alone!  Reminds me of that Billy Joel lyric from Piano Man: They’re sharing a drink they call loneliness But it’s better than drinking alone. We crave companionship, closeness, union, but the irony is that we are not actually alone in […]

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Rebirth?

Do you feel that death is curtains, or that there is life after death? When it comes to rebirth, or life continuing after the death of this body, it seems very well worth keeping an open mind, for what is there to lose? Lights out? An old friend of mine in his fifties is approaching […]

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“If you do not help us, we will be killed.” What can we do about Homs, Syria?

This sign held by a child trying to reach the world was the first thing I saw about the slaughter taking place in Homs, Syria, a few days ago, on Tumblr. Then a newspaper today had the headline: “Syrian siege of Homs is genocidal, say trapped residents.” “We are seriously dying here. It is really […]

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Advice from a Buddhist dad on making practice a priority

This is the second guest article from our Kadampa Buddhist dad, who has five young kids and a very busy job. The first is Kadampa Parenting. Making our daily practice a priority In many ways, the biggest obstacle to our attainment of enlightenment is our inability to establish a consistent daily practice.  This is especially […]

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Wanted Dead or Alive!! (Our anger and other delusions…)

At 11.30pm last night I had just brought some friends home from the airport when we heard the news from President Obama that Osama Bin Laden had been killed. Rejoicing broke out in streets all over the US. I found myself starting to do a high five with one of my friends, but caught myself […]

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Creating space in our minds

Until Konstantin the Russian tenant showed up, my yard in America was overgrown with prickly thistles and ugly weeds. My ultimate plan was to get rid of the seeds and roots of those unwanted plants, but how was I supposed to dig those up if I couldn’t even get to them? I first needed to […]

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How meditation overcomes negative thoughts and emotions

A bit more on the subject of delusions and how to get rid of them. Nothing is as it seems If it is true that “The things we normally perceive do not exist” it means that nothing is really out there, and everything is free of being real and fixed. This means we can change […]

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Why am I so sad? Removing the two ego minds at the source of our pain.

In a recent article I tried to explain how self-grasping and self-cherishing, and the delusions they spawn, entirely undermine our happiness. Luckily, nothing is fixed – if we can understand these two ego-centered states of mind at the source of our pain and dissatisfaction, that’s the first step to removing them. We don’t need them […]

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What am I so attached to?

Back in this article I was surmising that the reason we don’t go for a realization of emptiness more passionately seems to be because we are so attached to inherently existent things, particularly if they appear nice. That seems to me to be our deep laziness of attachment. There’s a contemplation I do to combat […]

Five ways to deal with criticism, part 2

This continues on from Five ways to deal with criticism. How to deal with criticism and overcome our faults without feeling guilty or inadequate If we have any self-cherishing, criticism will probably sting us to a greater or lesser extent. As Christopher Penny put it: “It depends on how high my self-cherishing dial is turned […]

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Marvin the manically depressed robot

My parents were staying with me early this year, which was lovely, and one night we watched Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, which was entertaining enough if you had no expectations whatsoever and were in the mood, which we were. Marvin the manically depressed robot got me thinking. He’s a robot with the brain the […]

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