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How to catch a problem before it catches you

This carries on directly from this last article. My lovely dad turned 80 on October 2nd, and we were discussing the meaning of (the rest of his) life. He told me he’d been perusing the obituaries to get a sense of how long he had to live and worked out (by some strange and somewhat optimistic […]

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How do I get rid of problems? Buddha’s advice

A million-dollar question. If we could answer this, we could get finally be free of the wretched things. In fact, this would be priceless information. Buddha did answer this. The whole of Buddhism, or “Dharma”, is supposedly a method to solve all our daily problems, and not just temporarily but FOREVER! This might seem a bit […]

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Tantra: the bliss boost

Carrying on with even more benefits of transforming enjoyments into the spiritual path with the help of the bliss boost meditation … Bliss destroys grasping Even with this simple method of transforming enjoyments, we can learn to associate bliss not with grasping but with letting go. Generally grasping has been the name of the game in […]

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Tantra: bliss and emptiness

In the previous article on Tantra, I explain a meditation derived from Buddha’s Tantric methods that some people call “the bliss boost”. Now I want to say a few things about why I think this meditation is so helpful, practical, and profound. Bliss improves concentration As the experience arising from this meditation is so pleasurable, naturally […]

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What’s the relationship between blessings and inner peace?

A guest article by a long-time Kadampa practitioner Venerable Geshe Kelsang has said that the function of Buddha is to bestow blessings continuously upon living beings and cause them to experience inner peace. Often I take these words superficially without relating them to my daily experience; but on those rare occasions when I do … […]

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Must we all suffer?

The last article, What is the root of all evil according to Buddha?, looked at how self-grasping — thinking that our I or me is real, solid, independent — naturally leads to self-cherishing, which believes that same I or me to be the most important. Self-cherishing thinks that holding onto ourselves and other things, finding […]

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Falling in love (again) according to Buddhism

I’m continuing with the subject of love, desire and attachment started in this article. Our attachment can be very strong. We’re in love with the idea of love in this society. It sometimes seems as if our whole society is focused on finding the right person — we need someone to complete us. We can’t […]

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Being realistic

More on delusions and how to get rid of them. Just before any delusion develops, we have an inch of space to change things around. For example, we have the seed of attachment in our mind, and let’s say we have an attractive object, such as a donut. This does not guarantee a delusion. Why […]

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Letting go before we are swamped

One of my dearest friends is a hoarder. He is gentle, kind, thoughtful, funny, and very unable to let go of his junk. For him, of course, that is because it is not junk. We tried to do a yard sale of all his stuff earlier this year and after weeks of work involving a […]

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What am I so attached to?

Back in this article I was surmising that the reason we don’t go for a realization of emptiness more passionately seems to be because we are so attached to inherently existent things, particularly if they appear nice. That seems to me to be our deep laziness of attachment. There’s a contemplation I do to combat […]

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Surfing life’s waves

The other day I saw a little dude with his surfboard looking disappointedly at the ocean – it was clearly his first day of vacation and his parents perhaps hadn’t warned him that the Gulf of Mexico is not known for its waves. Lojong or mind-training practitioners are also a little disappointed when everything goes […]

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Putting things in perspective

We make up our own storyline as we go along. So we might as well make it a good one. I just heard that our two $700 bicycles that I ride all the time have been stolen. The upstairs tenants left them unlocked in the front yard. (I’m property manager but away at the moment). […]

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What’s karma got to do with it?

This morning I felt mildly irritated at an “official” person because they have a different idea about something than I do, and naturally that means their idea is daft, but they are the ones in charge. Sound familiar? (I know it’s not just me). Angry Birds People play Angry Birds, so they tell me, because […]

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Facing ageing with strength

Old man look at my life, I’m a lot like you were. ~ Neil Young Continuing from this article, how can we remain positive when we’re getting old and our body starts to go wrong? I have a few people in my life who have grown old so well that I intend to copy them as […]

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