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Refuge is what we turn to to get rid of our suffering. We go for refuge because we need refuge, or protection, from our various problems, big or small. We arguably spend all day going for refuge, trying to get rid of one thing by turning to something else.
Like, just now I was feeling a big sleepy, so went to grab a coffee from my local NYC coffee shop. (Passing waves of people on the street seemingly on their way somewhere, no doubt in pursuit of relief just like me.) If we are feeling unwell, we turn to medicine; if we’re lonely, maybe we turn to friends or Tinder; if we’re hungry, we eat something if we can; if we’re bored, maybe we go online; if we’re uncomfortable, we shift our body into another position. Etc. Those are relatively tame things to do – we also have a large variety of more suspect things we turn to, such as opioids or the pursuit of power, status, and extreme wealth (check out this video:)
You know those sped-up movies? Watching them, we can see how we’re always on the go — going here, doing this, going there, doing that. Getting up, sitting down, propping ourselves up, lying down, walking around, sitting down again. Each day is a constant pursuit of little relief hits from what are basically physical or mental aches and pains. And we’ve been doing this our entire life. In all our lives, since beginningless time.
But the interesting thing is that we have just as many problems to solve as ever, don’t you find? We have just as many physical aches and pains, quite possibly more given that this body doesn’t get more comfortable as it gets older. Not to mention the near-constant mental aches and pains. So, we’re turning for refuge to other things all the time, but they are clearly only providing some temporary relief at best.
This is not to say that we shouldn’t eat, drink coffee, get a job, surf the internet, etc. That’s not Buddha’s point. His point is, are we finding the lasting happiness and freedom that we all long for? Are these temporary refuges sufficient for us, or could we actually be doing more? Could we be getting rid of our aches and pains more effectively?
And so far we’re not even talking about those BIG problems — namely ageing, sickness, major loss, catastrophes, and death — just the run of the mill irritations and discomforts. Coffee, the internet, power/status, and hot dates don’t even touch the big problems.
This is where we turn to the subject of refuge in Buddhism. This is a vast subject — all Buddha’s teachings are included within refuge one way or another, because basically Buddhist refuge means that instead of turning to worldly solutions, or sense pleasures, or indeed anything outside our mind, we turn inside to the practice of Buddhadharma.
The main object of refuge in Buddhism is our own efforts in practicing Dharma: such as increasing our inner peace, getting rid of our delusions (sometimes known, with good reason, as “afflictions”), practicing patience, love, compassion, and wisdom. We turn to Dharma experience because we appreciate that it is the effective and lasting protection from our problems.
There would be no Dharma without Buddha Shakyamuni, he taught it in our world; and Buddhas also emanate as Spiritual Guides who can guide us and bless our minds. Without Buddhas, or enlightened beings, it would be impossible to practice Dharma. And we also turn to Sangha, such as our fellow Dharma practitioners – others who are also interested in solving their problems, if you like, from the inside, not always from the outside.
At the time of Buddha Shakyamuni, when he was walking around in a form that everyone could see, he never used the word “Buddhism.” The word “Buddhism” is a new invention. It is one of those Western “ism” words — we took Buddha and added ism to the end of it.
Buddha instead would apparently call his disciples “inner beings.” Nangpa cho, if you want to know the Tibetan and impress people at parties; which I believe, though correct me if I’m wrong, literally means inner Dharma. Those who practice the teachings, go for refuge to the Three Jewels, are inner beings, because instead of turning outwards for solutions to their problems they are trying to turn inwards to transform the mind.
And the reason we practice Dharma is out of compassion, to free ourselves and others. To end suffering. To end suffering for everybody: humans, animals, insects, everybody. That’s the end goal in Buddhism — to ourselves become more and more of an object of refuge until eventually we ourselves are a Buddha.
Going for refuge to Dharma
Putting effort into practicing Dharma means that we take delight in it, really enjoy it. We see it as a real solution to everything that ails us and everybody else. We love it, we understand its benefits, we understand that it works. So we naturally turn to it with effort. Effort doesn’t mean straining and pushing, it means enjoyment — its full name is joyful effort. If we enjoy things, we do them, you’ve probably noticed.
Going for refuge to Buddha
We also put effort into receiving blessings and inspiration from Buddha. We can do this by just feeling close to enlightened beings, because from their side they’re already close to us, indeed one with us. By tuning into blessings, our minds experience huge amounts of power and inspiration.
Going for refuge to Sangha
And then we put effort into receiving help from Sangha, which means we allow ourselves to be encouraged and inspired by other people who are practicing Dharma. They’re all trying to gain the experiences of cherishing others and patience, for example, and all trying to get rid of their attachment and irritation. The fact that they haven’t managed it all yet doesn’t matter; we’re still motivated by them because they’re trying. They can be very good examples for us. And we can make an effort not just to receive help from Sangha but to help them too.
My feeling is that Sangha don’t have to be signed-up Buddhists – I find anyone who is relying on inner refuge, for example compassion in the face of adversity, can work as refuge and inspiration for me.
Over to you. Any thoughts to contribute on the subject of inner being?
The power of Sangha
Buddhism: an idea whose time has come
What is Buddhism? ~ a short, simple guide
Several weeks ago, I spoke with a friend, that is an intuitive. She referred to my practice of Buddhadharma as Beings of Dharma. I was delighted. 😘😘😘
Beautiful blog on Refuge and our constant attempt for temporary relief. 😃😃
The movie with the voice of Dr Gabor Mate strikes at the heart. He is an incredibly compassionate doctor. He has written several books, very inspiring. I believe he may be one of Geshela’s emanations. ❤️❤️❤️
My favorite bit: “My feeling is that Sangha don’t have to be signed-up Buddhists – I find anyone who is relying on inner refuge, for example compassion in the face of adversity, can work as refuge and inspiration for me.”
I’m glad you enjoyed it!
You are on fire with these writings! I love how Geshe-la has giving us so many new identities along the way, new ways to relate to ourselves. “Inner being” nice name tag:)
Thank you my friend.
This is a wonderful article. Thank you. If one feels frozen over (perhaps due to earlier pain in this life and also past life sufferings that have carried through to this life?), what is the best way to unfreeze? Meditation on death? The subject of death seems to freeze me up more… thank you.
Hi Cristina, before meditating on death, be sure to feel confident and connected to your Buddha nature, and do some contemplations on your precious human life to find joy and gratitude. That will start unfreezing you 🙂
Thank you for your wonderful article! Very moving video. Very powerful. Will share with my family and friends.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you, a very powerful message and video. Bless you..
Thank you, very kind 😀
Thank you for this beautiful article.
Please could you explain this a bit more in depth ‘We can do this by just feeling close to enlightened beings, because from their side they’re already close to us, indeed one with us’
Why are the Buddhas already one with us? Is it because of our Buddha seed, from Empowerments or because their omniscient mind pervades everything?
Why is it when we feel connected to our Spiritual Guide we feel it in our heart chakra?
Their omniscient mind pervades everything, yes. There is more about that in this article: https://kadampalife.org/2011/10/16/blissings/
Our root mind is connected to energy winds that are located in our heart chakra — our heart is where we feel everything most deeply.
Thank you –
‘Our mind, like a drop of water, can dissolve into the mind of all enlightened beings, which is like a boundless blissful ocean. The drop is then pervaded by the ocean’
WOW!!!!!! Powerful….. Thank you, as always!
Glad you like it!
Loved the video and your explanation and tranquility to be found in refuge. Thank you.
Lovely seeing you today 😁
Likewise. Your teaching this morning helped enormously. Thank you again.