There seems to be a fair bit of hubris around lately, like it’s catching or something, and some of it is quite dangerous. Deluded pride is more about bending the world to our own will, thinking we are already great and/or know it all. It never works out in the long term — as they say, pride always comes before a fall. And prideĀ is not inspiring.
With wisdom, on the other hand, we see that WE need to change if we are to find lasting happiness and help others do the same. We need the confidence to change, and this needs to be based on something valid, ie, our spiritual potential and actual good qualities, not dumb stuff or selfish stuff or negative stuff.
Actual self-confidence — or non-deluded pride — is a humble mind, the very opposite of hubris. It is able to accept challenges without freaking out, learn from others, grow from mistakes, and keep us moving and improving. It is also catching because when we meet a truly humble, selfless person we are humbled by their 
humble nature. Their influence can be huge and their inspiration ring down the ages.
Even one strong delusion can be a powerful force for negativity in our world ā delusions are weird and scary, and they can spread fast. But a strong, virtuous, sane mind like self-confident humility or compassion is just as powerful and contagious, maybe more so, and can oppose the delusions directly. So being the change we want to see in the world, as Gandhi put it, is an effective response to our own and others’ delusions; and, unlike trying to master other people, mastering our own mind is guaranteed to bring about good results now and later.
Carrying on from this article.
Pride in thinking we can destroy our delusions
The second area in which we can increase our self-confidence is called “the pride in thinking we can destroy our delusions.” This is the thought:
I can conquer all my delusions; they will never conquer me. ~ How to Understand the Mind
We are thinking, “I donāt want to stay the same ā I want to become unstuck by freeing my mind from the chains of my delusions.” In ordinary psychology, perhaps, we hardly dare imagine that we can change that much ā getting rid of all our faults and limitations, as opposed to just some of them. But in Buddhist psychology, as explainedĀ a bit here, itĀ is possible to develop a vision that understands we can.
It is impossible to destroy our spiritual potential because this is based on reality, but it is perfectly possible to destroy our delusions because these are based on wrong conceptions that can be righted:
A person under the influence of delusions is not in his right mind, because he is creating terrible suffering for himself and no one in his right mind would create suffering for himself. All delusions are based on a mistaken way of seeing things. When we see things as they really are, our delusions naturally disappear and virtuous minds naturally manifest. ~ How to Transform Your LifeĀ
Bodhisattva warriors
Try thinking this: “Iām going to destroy, vanquish, and utterly eliminate from my mind every last trace of delusion.” Just try it out. Try the feel of it in your heart-mind. I am going to destroy my delusions. This is how Shantideva says it in his epic Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:
Ā I will conquer all obstacles,
And none shall conquer me.
That is a big sense of self, right?! But it’s not the big, real, important self as in deluded pride (the selfĀ that doesn’t exist).
Thus I, who will become a Conqueror,
Will practice with self-confidence.
A real Conqueror is a Buddha, someone who has awakened from the sleep of mistaken conceptions and appearances, destroying all their delusions permanently.
We need this self-confidence so that when things go wrong, (as they do tend to do), we need never become panic-stricken or downcast.
You know that feeling ā if our confidence is weak, then just some little thing crops up, like an annoying email, and we trip up and collapse. Itās like weāre setting out to practice patience and suddenly people are being doubly disagreeable. “Ohh, I canāt do it!” In truth, the opposite is the case. “I, who am going to become a Buddha, will destroy all my delusions.”
Shantideva illustrates how we can put ourselves into that space with the example of a warrior ā saying that if a warrior in battle gets a flesh wound and sees their own blood, they are roused to greater acts of courage. Whereas if someone bloodies me with a sword ā¦ well, I don’t know what I’d do, but if my brief days of playing school sports are anything to go by, I’d probably slink off the battle field as soon as as I could without being noticed.
The Bodhisattva is like a warrior ā they start experiencing obstacles, and they are like, “Great! Bring it on!” More reason to wield the sword of wisdom against the delusions, more reason to be self-confident.Ā
And in truth, why shouldn’t we be self-confident? We know where the obstacles are coming from = just our own mind. The intriguing thing about the obstacles, the delusions, is that thatās all they are ā they’re just delusions. Meaning not only are they just thoughts, without arms or legs as Shantideva says (let alone swords), but they also donāt have truth on their side. Theyāre actually grounded in ignorance. They are founded on a misperception of reality. Whereas we can become a Buddha, thatās the truth. We can overcome our delusions, thatās the truth. Wisdom, love, compassion, generosity, patience, self-confidence and all the other virtuous minds are based on seeing reality correctly.
The real battle lines are drawnĀ
Itās not a fight between good versus evil where we are on the sidelines, on tenterhooks, “Whoās going to win the ultimate battle, the dark side, the light side?!” Itās not like that — especially if we are talking about living beings versus living beings because we are all mixed bags of delusions and virtues changing all the time, and from one life to the next, so who couldĀ ever possibly win a battle like that?!
The real battle lines are wisdom versus ignorance, and finally, in that war, ignorance doesnāt stand a chance. This is because it isĀ ignorant! It is stupid. It is also stubborn and fairly persuasive while we remain under its influence, but as soon as we start to view it from the perspective of wisdom it doesnāt stand a chance.
More on this second type of self-confidence in the next article — we are out of time as I know a lot of readers have things to do like march the streets today. That’s cool, I like that people are standing up for what they believe in. Maybe it goes without saying but I’ll say it anyway, that our outward action is nurtured and given its meaning by our inner motivations. So even in these, for many people, difficult and scary times, and in the heat of battle, I am trying to remember that my real rebellion is against the delusions or wrong conceptions ā never other living beings — and starting with my own.
Feedback from you: How do you stay confident enough to prioritize conquering your delusions, even when things are going badly wrong and the tendency to feel upset and lash out might be strong?
Next type of self-confidence can be found here.
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