In the last article on resilience, Grace under pressure, I was saying how we need to view difficult situations as challenges as opposed to insurmountable obstacles or we can’t transform them. Later I was thinking we could get to the point where we even see them as invitations: “I invite you to transform me!”
An invitation
When I had Omicron last month, for example I was trying to pray not so much, “Please don’t let me feel too ill!” but “May I accept whatever is appearing due to my karma as an invitation to transform my mind into renunciation, compassion, and the wisdom realizing emptiness.” This changes the meaning of adversity from “insurmountable obstacle” to “encouragement to transcend all suffering”.
In Kadampa Buddhism, one of our key practices is called “transforming adverse conditions into the path” – whereby we take anything that looks like a disadvantage and turn it into an advantage. In this way we don’t just have to bounce back – we can bounce forward. When we get good at this, we become someone who doesn’t mind difficulties. We don’t even have to have the initial freakout, “Nooooooo waaaaayyy!!!!” — we simply welcome wholeheartedly whatever comes up, knowing we can use it to make solid progress to our goal of lasting freedom and happiness. This is spiritual resilience. So useful.
One question you may have – maybe it’s possible to transform our own personal difficulties such as Covid, but what if people make a decision that we feel is completely wrong, eg, that will destroy public health, affecting millions of people? Such as the recent US Supreme Court decisions on undermining voting rights, gun laws, the EPA, and women’s rights? How do we transform all that?! Are we supposed to transform that?! … or are we supposed to fight?! What do we do? If we do nothing, as someone asked me the other day, won’t we end up living in the Handmaid’s Tale?!
And, by the way, transforming difficulties is not doing nothing – we need to keep in mind the difference between inner and outer problems, as explained here. We can be working on both at the same time.
4. Foster flexibility
The 4th of the 8 ways to foster resilience (according to my re-ordered list) is to become more flexible. As the article says:
I think our mind needs to become infinitely flexible, and that the combination of challenges and a massive number of Dharma teachings is giving us that.
There’s no point in getting upset with super villains because, of course, they’re not the actual villains – it is delusions that are running the show. All mother sentient beings are being swept along by the currents of the four powerful rivers of birth, ageing, sickness, and death, entrapped by their self-grasping. Anyone who harms our environment, for example, is still going to have to inhabit the same world as the rest of us. When climate change strikes, it will strike them too. So, the real enemies are the delusions.
Get out while you can
I think an awful lot of things need to go wrong before we develop the constant wish to get the hell out of samsara and inhabit a Pure Land. This might be why The Oral Instructions of the Mahamudra contain a little bit of fire and brimstone, where we imagine going to sleep tonight as a human but wake up surrounded by hellish fire. Why would Venerable Geshe Kelsang bring that up?! For one thing, of course, it is perfectly possible that this is going to happen; it is not made up. But also it injects some urgency into our renunciation (and thereafter our compassion.)
True agency
And we can. Dharma practice is rooted in the understanding that we are far more powerful than we realize — that we have extraordinary depth and potential. Indeed, we are creating our entire reality with our intentions, with our thoughts. Not realizing this, we give ourselves no credit or agency, instead being swept along helplessly by circumstances that we believe are completely beyond our control. We feel angry, helpless, anxious, depressed, etc because we don’t realize our involvement in this waking dream.
For more on this subject, please check out these articles on wisdom, especially this one “Mere karmic appearance to mind.” This is probably my favorite go-to consideration when things are going wrong and I have started to feel powerless. I really wish, amongst other things, that we could all pause at least occasionally from the passive imbibement of mass media to realize our true agency.
Pray
Over to you. Comments most appreciated!
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I love the prayer you said when you had Covid. I copied and pasted it in a doc for constant reminder and inspiration.
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Thanks Luna! Your articles are so inspiring and timely. 🙏❤️
Thank you for saying so 🙂