Ten ways to be happier

Who doesn’t want to be happier? That, and wanting to be free from suffering, are the two basic wishes of all living beings, from world leaders to the smallest gnat. Generally, however, as Shantideva says: Although living beings wish to be free from suffering, They run straight towards the causes of suffering; And although they […]

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Clear mind

The meditation on the nature of our own mind has many benefits, the first being that it pacifies distractions. If we understand what we are meditating on, we’ll see how that works. For perfect instructions, please consult Geshe Kelsang’s beautiful new book, The Oral Instructions of Mahamudra. The nature and function of the mind In […]

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Lamrim, Lojong, and Mahamudra

First I thought it’d be helpful to give some context for the clarity of mind meditation, and then share some thoughts on why it is so effective at pacifying our distractions. The clarity of mind meditation is part of Sutra Mahamudra. And Mahamudra is the heart essence of the Kadampa tradition of Buddhism. A Kadampa […]

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The end of collection is dispersion …

I’m not claiming to be any expert, but I love the meditation on the clarity of the mind. So I thought I’d do some articles and invite your comments. Here is a quick meditation we can do for starters: Meditation We breathe out whatever is on our mind, and all scattered thoughts, gently opening up […]

compassion fatigue?!

How to be a hero

One of the main things about compassion is that it makes us a kinder, more helpful person. A force of good in this world, for sure. But it also helps US. Why? Because it overcomes our own limitations and problems, as does love. If we understand this, we are less reluctant to develop it. (Carrying on […]

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Do liberals and conservatives share any common ground?

Someone commented on my last article that from the perspective of someone in the UK there is no difference between the two US presidential candidates. But I think that up closer there is a difference in candidates (and parties), not just in terms of their policies but in terms of the core values that motivate […]

Bin Laden

Wanted Dead or Alive!! (Our anger and other delusions…)

At 11.30pm last night I had just brought some friends home from the airport when we heard the news from President Obama that Osama Bin Laden had been killed. Rejoicing broke out in streets all over the US. I found myself starting to do a high five with one of my friends, but caught myself […]

Meditando na Montanha

Breathe your way to inner peace

This is the last installment of the how not to worry articles. Breathing meditations can help enormously in instantly alleviating our worry, and anyone can do them if they have a mind to. Simple breathing meditation Worrying affects us physiologically, from shallower breathing and the inability to relax through to full blown panic attacks when […]


Letting go before we are swamped

One of my dearest friends is a hoarder. He is gentle, kind, thoughtful, funny, and very unable to let go of his junk. For him, of course, that is because it is not junk. We tried to do a yard sale of all his stuff earlier this year and after weeks of work involving a […]

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Anger ruins our fun

I am sitting on the beach hearing a Russian couple arguing. I can’t really begin to describe what a perfect day it is today, but I can say that it is the best time of year with clear blue sky, turquoise sea, white sand, soft breezes, pelicans, a vast bathtub to swim in with the […]

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Dealing with negative thoughts and emotions

Delusions distort our world. With delusions, we project something from the side of our mind, and then we feel that the person or thing actually is like that from their own side, having nothing to do with our perceiving consciousness. All delusions do this, such as anger, which came up in this first article on […]

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Why am I so sad? Removing the two ego minds at the source of our pain.

In a recent article I tried to explain how self-grasping and self-cherishing, and the delusions they spawn, entirely undermine our happiness. Luckily, nothing is fixed – if we can understand these two ego-centered states of mind at the source of our pain and dissatisfaction, that’s the first step to removing them. We don’t need them […]

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Oh woe is me! How to stop distracting ourselves from happiness.

Probably, as mentioned in this previous article, the worst fault of self-cherishing is how it undermines our wish and capability to love and help others. I have a couple of embarrassing examples of this from just now, which I have summoned up the courage to share with you below … As my teacher says in […]

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Rioting on the streets of England and in our own minds

What do you make of all these riots sweeping across England right now? People are getting hurt. They are reminding me of two things: (1)   The uncontrollable nature of anger (2)   How influenced we are by others In the newspaper I was reading online, a commentator tries to figure out what exact grievances are leading […]


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