Latest

letting go 3

What is there to grasp at?

If something doesn’t remain for even a moment — if it is gone as soon as it arises — then what is there to hold onto??! (Carrying on from this article.) For example, we meet someone we like – but if they’re gone the moment we meet them, what is there to get attached to? […]

letting go 4

Nothing sticks around

We can understand subtle impermanence in two ways. (And I am once again unabashedly going to borrow Gen Samten’s explanations on the subject.) No carry over  The first we have looked at already, vis there is no carry over — no element of the past carries over, the present is completely new. Just to remind you: […]

too much to do today

Blink, and it’s a new world

When we feel overwhelmed with busyness it is usually because all our activities are bleeding into each other. With thoughts of impermanence, they don’t. We can focus on the here and now. We have walls up (as described in this last article). We can still plan — put the things we need to do in […]

boundary

No time like the present

First, a little anecdote I wrote this about a dog and me a few years ago. “I am leaving today. Earlier, I was a little melancholy to think this was the last walk Mr. Frodo and I would be taking down to the bay, until it occurred to me that it wasn’t a last walk […]

Letting Go 1

Does time heal?

“Time heals” because over time we forget. But why wait to forget?! Waiting passively for things to happen to us is not much fun, we don’t much like waiting in line for example. Some people take months or years to get over a broken heart, and it is agony. They are waiting to forget. They […]

More to read…

Lucy from Peanuts and love

Love, attachment and desire according to Buddhism

Happy Valentine’s Day! A good day to talk about love, I think. This is the annual “love day”. For most of us, our love is a mixture of two things – attachment, which is not in fact love at all, and love, which is. I like Valentine’s Day here in America. In England, Valentine’s Day […]

kindness of Buddhas and Bodhisattvas

Can ageing be worthwhile?

Carrying on from where this article left off. The power of the Bodhisattva’s mind  When a Bodhisattva experiences pain, they regard this pain as an example of the pain experienced by countless other living beings. They do not possess the pain or identify with it. Ordinarily, pain destroys our happiness because we grasp it tightly […]

Happy Easter

Do you ever feel discouraged?

Happy Easter Everyone! I thought today would be a good day to start a series of articles on how to become unstuck – overcoming the long winter of our discouragement to arise anew. Sloughing off our sense of a limited, fixed, deluded self — a self that doesn’t in any case even exist — and […]

boomerang

What’s karma got to do with it?

This morning I felt mildly irritated at an “official” person because they have a different idea about something than I do, and naturally that means their idea is daft, but they are the ones in charge. Sound familiar? (I know it’s not just me). Angry Birds People play Angry Birds, so they tell me, because […]

nervous nellie

No more nervous Nellie

Tomorrow’s another day There have been some great comments on the previous no worry articles, including this one from DhiDakini: “In a meditation class, someone asked the teacher about the emotion of anxiety. I remember that he said in answer: “Doesn’t it seem strange and so interesting that we sit in a pleasant moment and […]

karma painting

How are you feeling? Musings on karma continued…

(You may want to read this article first to get up to scratch. I’ve divided the article up into two parts to make it easier to read in a coffee break.) Feelings Going back to the discussion in the last article, as there are three types of object, there are three types of feeling that experience […]

Buddha 1

What is the root of all evil according to Buddha?!

Synopsis Buddha said that the root of all our negative minds — all our so-called “delusions” or unpeaceful, uncontrolled minds — is self-grasping ignorance. We are grasping very tightly at an exaggerated sense of self — an I or me that is independent, real. Due to this we naturally develop a grossly overrated, over the […]

calvin and hobbes new year's resolution

Learning to meditate in 2013

(A holiday bonus special article, twice the length! :-)) It is that up-in-the-air time again, when between recovering from the same-old, same-old hectic holidays and looking lugubriously ahead to the same-old, same-old January treadmill we may decide we want things to be different this year. We may want it to be a better year, preferably […]

attachment

Falling in love (again) according to Buddhism

I’m continuing with the subject of love, desire and attachment started in this article. Our attachment can be very strong. We’re in love with the idea of love in this society. It sometimes seems as if our whole society is focused on finding the right person — we need someone to complete us. We can’t […]

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 1,712 other followers