Latest

time lapse 3

Subtle impermanence

(Carrying straight on from Living in the moment.) We can ask ourselves how many of the decisions etc we make are truly new and how many are just recreating the past? Let’s say someone was critical of us yesterday and we became defensive. Then we see them again today. They are a completely different person […]

Bodhisattva

Living in the moment

Do you like the idea of living in the moment? How can we do that — live in the moment, in the present, in the here and the now? Buddha had a lot to say on the subject, and in this age of distraction, depression, and worry there seems to be both great interest in […]

busy 1

How to feel less busy all the time

This continues directly from this article. Time off?! Also, if you actually itemize what many frenetically “busy” people do every week, my bet would be that they (we, you) have far more leisure time than they think, it is just that instead of using the time to unwind and recharge they just fill it up […]

busy 3

Are you busy?

“How are you?” I just asked someone. And she answered with a pained expression, “Busy!!!” “What are you up to?” I continued, and she replied that she had loads on at work and was also trying to organize her wedding, which was stressing her out. “I am too attached to the perfect wedding,” she said. So often these […]

help everyone escape

What is compassion?

Compassion fills our life with meaning. So, what is it? It is not just being nice, though it will lead us to being good people. If we have compassion, we want something for others. If a friend has tripped over a drain and broken their leg, we want them to be free from physical pain. If a friend is suicidal, […]

More to read…

wide open road

Clearing out the clutter from our mind

Yesterday I met Steve, recently evicted from his mobile home and locked out from his possessions for no longer earning enough money from eBay to pay his rent. Living in his car for two weeks, he has just been rescued by my old friend Iben who lives next to him and who decided to buy […]

kadampa social work 6

Where is a problem? … more from our social worker

This is the second article from a guest writer, Kadampa Buddhist and student social worker. For the first, see Meditation Helps Me Be a Better Social Worker and Vice Versa. The problem is not in the person — the problem is the problem and the person is the person. ~ Solution-focussed social work theory Our […]

map of UK on fire

Rioting on the streets of England and in our own minds

What do you make of all these riots sweeping across England right now? People are getting hurt. They are reminding me of two things: (1)   The uncontrollable nature of anger (2)   How influenced we are by others In the newspaper I was reading online, a commentator tries to figure out what exact grievances are leading […]

problems outside the mind

How do I get rid of problems? Buddha’s advice

A million-dollar question. If we could answer this, we could get finally be free of the wretched things. In fact, this would be priceless information. Buddha did answer this. The whole of Buddhism, or “Dharma”, is supposedly a method to solve all our daily problems, and not just temporarily but FOREVER! This might seem a bit […]

attachment

Falling in love (again) according to Buddhism

I’m continuing with the subject of love, desire and attachment started in this article. Our attachment can be very strong. We’re in love with the idea of love in this society. It sometimes seems as if our whole society is focused on finding the right person — we need someone to complete us. We can’t […]

the six causes of our problems according to Buddhism

The six causes of our problems, according to Buddhism

Why do we do the crazy things we do? For our stupidest behavior, we blame bad genes and peer pressure; for the deeds we want to own, we credit a steely sense of purpose or even divine guidance. But a disturbing new force is emerging as a remote driver of our behavior … ~ The […]

should i tell him

How to catch a problem before it catches you

This carries on directly from this last article. My lovely dad turned 80 on October 2nd, and we were discussing the meaning of (the rest of his) life. He told me he’d been perusing the obituaries to get a sense of how long he had to live and worked out (by some strange and somewhat optimistic […]

Ice cream makes you happy

Karma and us

Some of you may remember the inappropriate attention I paid to the supposed theft of two bikes two summers ago… bikes that turned out not to be stolen at all. Well, some months ago, the big blue bike was stolen “for real”! Someone really wanted that bike. We’d locked them to a palm tree on […]

Lucy from Peanuts and love

Love, attachment and desire according to Buddhism

Happy Valentine’s Day! A good day to talk about love, I think. This is the annual “love day”. For most of us, our love is a mixture of two things – attachment, which is not in fact love at all, and love, which is. I like Valentine’s Day here in America. In England, Valentine’s Day […]

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 1,652 other followers